You Are Enough For Me.

Sometimes, I wish I had more to offer this world than this sliver of online space I call my blog. Sometimes, I wish I could write an eloquent speech so moving it would bring healing to thousands of wounded hearts. Sometimes, I dream of big ambitions, of speaking to millions, of writing bestsellers, of having a movie […]

Why Are We So Mean?

“Hatred stirs up conflict, but love covers over all wrongs.” — Proverbs 10:12  Behind my kind eyes, smiling face, friendly attitude, and outgoing spirit is the capacity to say the cruelest, most hurtful things to another person. I have belittled, name called, and hurt the most beloved people in my life. Over the past few months, as I work through my own brokenness, I have […]

Fighting When There’s Nothing Left.

This post was originally published for The Seattle School of Theology & Psychology. You can view the original post here. “When the people we love or with whom we have a deep connection stop caring, stop paying attention, stop investing, and stop fighting for the relationship, trust begins to slip away and hurt starts seeping in.” […]

My Summer in the South: Unresolved Endings.

“When God is going to do something wonderful, He or She always starts with a hardship; when God is going to do something amazing, He or She starts with an impossibility.” – Anne Lamott This past weekend, I psyched myself up for a solo camping trip to the Outer Banks in North Carolina. I wanted […]

My Summer in the South: Fireflies and an Aching Heart.

“When I study and understand my life story, I can then join God as a coauthor. I don’t have to settle for merely being a reader of my life; God calls me to be a writer of my future.” – Dan. B Allender, To Be Told I’m spending my summer in the south! … Well, technically I’m […]

Tales of a Smother.

In the darkness I will meet my creators. They will all agree, I’m a suffocator. — “Smother” by Daughter If you know me at all, you know I love using metaphors. Metaphorizing my experience helps me wrap my brain around and name what’s happening in the chaos inside me. Recently, I was talking with a friend about naming […]

Psalm 32 :: A Change of Heart.

“I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go;     I will counsel you with my loving eye on you.” – Psalm 32:8 Wounds have affected a dear friendship of mine. I had inflicted these wounds and they were inflicted on me. There is nothing more tragic than a friendship tearing apart, […]

To My Married Friends

Dear Married Friends, Thank you. I know this might not be what you were expecting. Maybe the single people in your life have other things to say about you, or your marriage, or the fact that you’ve found the elusive “one”, but I want to simply give you thanks. You see… I’m grateful for you. […]

Marriage Isn’t So Scary Anymore

Marriage is terrifying. It’s not the commitment – I commit myself to people, places, and things all the time. It’s not the “settling down” – Lots of married people live adventurous lives, filled with excitement. It’s not even the living-with-a-boy-who’s-not-your-dad thing – Boys kill spiders and can reach things on the top shelf and are really good at […]

Day #212: Getting Personal

This week’s post was taken from my 365-day dating experiment, “The Postcard of My [Single] Life” from May 4, 2010. I revisited the retired blog today and thought it was a fantastic post that still reigns true today. Enjoy! It’s easy to take the subject matter of “dating” and spin it with a humorous and […]